Danya Kovchiy on the podcast "This Is My Job" You lose the New Year not when you learn that Father Frost does not exist, but when you lose…

Danya Kovchiy on the podcast "This Is My Job" You lose the New Year not when you learn that Father Frost does not exist, but when you lose your inner child There are many hints for designers in this podcast. Designers constantly have questions: "how do I develop?", "how do I make my design accepted?", "how do I understand that I am in the right place?" and so on. I want to draw attention to two aspects that will help "be a designer", which Danya talks about: Presence and deep listening. The podcast itself is a visual aid for manifesting these qualities - co-hosts Dasha and Nikita enter the guest's worldview, and from it, build the narrative. (The opposite is often found: the hosts' ego does not let them hear the guest, and they try to stuff the guest's worldview into their own, familiar and convenient one) - So what do I do? I am present at every meeting, I do not skip them. Everything is fine with me - And where is your head at that moment? I myself am very scattered and love to get distracted. Wow Pigeon Deficit Syndrome! Two practices helped me: • crossing the threshold of a meeting room, saying to myself: "I am passing through the doors, I am entering." Our mind treats context changes well. Change of environment - change of context. Internal narration helps notice that the context is changing and we are now in a meeting. • - And where is my head right now? Am I already ready to listen and participate, or am I still in my head living through situations that happened earlier. Fighting projections, worrying about something that is not in this room now Deep listening (active listening). This is when you listen not to answer, but to understand: the person's meaning, emotions, needs and context, and you show this understanding in a way that makes it safer and clearer for them. A skill of presence and attention Ordinary listening: "uh-huh, all clear" (and the brain is already writing the answer). Deep: "I am assembling the interlocutor's worldview as if I will later need to draw it accurately" A small paradox: often deep listening itself removes half the problem, because it finally becomes clear to the person what is happening to them - and that they are not alone in it Book: "Theory U" by Otto Scharmer will help dive deeper into the material Deep listening is an incredibly difficult practice if a person is in a state of stress. In stress, our internal processes are busy with survival work, not creating the new The less stressed we are, the more resource we have for attentiveness and acceptance of the new In Evolution Space we have a guide on how not to lose your mind, I want to share it: "Mental Health Practices" There is no mystery in the list, and do not be scared by the abundance of items - you will not be able to do everything at once, leave yourself alone right away. The important thing is different: each item is a step along the path to resilience. The more resilient the designer, the more interesting their ideas